Week One Bonus Activity: A 360 degree reflection of yourself using the Johari Window
THE JOHARI/NOHARI WINDOW GAME
Most of us live in our own heads ( I am raising my hand guilty here!!!) . We think the world sees us as we see ourselves. In fact we go about our day seeking confirmation of our view of ourselves i.e. confirmation bias (the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms one’s preexisting beliefs or hypotheses, while giving disproportionately less consideration to alternative possibilities). You can see how this can be dangerous especially when it comes to leadership. So how do you go about getting some “unbiased” and “non-intimidating” feedback on how you might be coming across to others? I like to use the Johari/Nohari window.
The Johari window is a technique created in 1955 by two American psychologists, Joseph Luft (1916–2014) and Harrington Ingham (1914–1995)] used to help people better understand how they see themselves and how that differs from how the world sees them. Part of your leadership journey will be mindfully working on your Blindspots, revealing your Hidden Self and also trying to discover your Unknown Self.
The Johari Window model is a ‘disclosure/feedback model of self awareness’. Mindfully recognising that everyday when you step outside into the world you are stepping through the Johari window will help you become a congruent and “OPEN” leader which is where all the best leaders hang out.
(the Nohari words spices up the original exercise)
Take out a clean sheet of unlined paper. This will be the only activity you need to do with people who know you well. Draw the Johari window like the one below and label the boxes like the image OPEN, BLIND, HIDDEN AND UNKNOWN. Print this attachment johari-nohari-words which is a listing of the following word traits:
- Each player will get a copy of the list of Johari and Nohari words.
- Each player will have his own sheet of plain paper and fill out separately, not sharing the information, the following:
- 5 qualities from each list that you see in the person sitting opposite you. Circle these words
- 5 qualities from each list you see in yourself. Underline these words
- One completed, turn over the sheet and now you can share your answers with your partner. You cannot change any words.
- Compare the words circled on your page (what you think of the person you are playing the game with ) and the words they underlined on their page (what they think of themselves). Are they the same or are they different?
- Take your blank Johari Window you drew at the beginning and in the top left box on your Johari window put all the words you underlined about yourself that are identical to the words circled by the other player. These are your OPEN qualities (you see them in you and others see them in you also).
- In the bottom left box, write all the remaining words you underlined about yourself but the other player did not circle. These are your HIDDEN qualities i.e. you see them in you but you are not showing them to the world.
- In the top right box, put all the words your partner circled about you that you did not underline or see in yourself .This is your BLINDSPOT i.e. others see these qualities in you but you do not see them.
- The Unknown box remains blank since these are qualities unknown to you or the world about you. Some examples of unknown factors can be as follows:
- an ability that is under-estimated or un-tried through lack of opportunity, encouragement, confidence or training
- a natural ability or aptitude that a person doesn’t realise they possess
- a fear or aversion that a person does not know they have
- an unknown illness
- repressed or subconscious feeling
- conditioned behaviour or attitudes from childhood
Do this activity with a few people who know you well or work with you and ask yourself these questions:
- How different are you coming across to others?
- What surprised you the most about what others see in you but you do not see whatsoever yourself?
- Is their a dominating theme in the qualities coming across to others that differ from what you think you are portraying to others?
- Did you ask those playing with you what you could do more off so more of your open qualities show up to others?
- How can you start showing your hidden qualities to others?
Dig Deeper over the next week